Monday, 23 November 2015

FOR TRADITIONALIST NATIVE PEOPLES - GENDER ROLES ARE VALID AND DO HAVE A USEFUL ROLE TO PLAY IN OUR SOCIETIES

                                         YOU CAN BE MODERN YET TRADITIONAL
Our happy traditional gender-role allocated family, a father who married their mother when I was 19 and she was 17 - and who together have been married for 23 years since then, with our eldest child (son) Hatuey 22, second child (son) Tecumseh 20, third child (daughter) Sabantho Aderi (17), and fourth child (daughter) Laliwa Hadali (9).  

FOR TRADITIONALIST NATIVE PEOPLES - GENDER ROLES ARE VALID AND DO HAVE A USEFUL ROLE TO PLAY IN OUR SOCIETIES
In my family the tradition of gender roles continues into the 21st century ....but NOT the perverse way of some patriarchal urban societies.....for example I know of men who see no wrong with their pregnant wives being down on their knees scrubbing floors in the home (if YOU as a man cannot afford to PAY some other male to scrub your floors DO IT YOUR DAMNED SELF!)....it is NOT a woman's place to be scrubbing ANY floors...unless she truly wants to do so.
I saw a middle aged mother washing the car while her teen-aged son relaxed inside.....it is NOT a woman's place to be washing ANY man's car.
I know of fathers who make their daughters do yard work including picking up garbage and even dog excrement ....you DISRESPECT your daughters dignity by making her do such filthy work - she will be bringing life into this world as a MOTHER one day, would you like your mother to pick up dog shit? .... that kind of work is for MALES to do only.
Planting crops or just ornamental plants is different, that is OK for anyone to do, it is dealing with LIFE not filth.
In the tribe digging graves is also EXCLUSIVELY males work, because it is BENEATH THE DIGNITY of a woman - who has the gift of bringing life INTO the world - to be involved with taking life's residue out of this world....this is why in war NO woman is 'expected' to fight....we expect our women to survive so that our children will survive and continue our genetic existence....but if a woman wants to fight - she is welcomed among the men as an equal.
Everyone catches fish...but no woman of our tribe hunts animals, that is dirty work (taking life) and therefore reserved for males only.
A man who is beaten by a woman is scorned for having no honor - as is a man who beats a woman scorned for having no honor, both are despised (people with honor do not beat each other).....if you cannot live civilized with each other and limit yourselves to verbal sparring only (and even your language must be civilized and not obscene)...you should go your separate ways, neither of you 'owns' the other, you are two different halves of a perfect whole (or you SHOULD be)...and there is always someone else out there you can find, the tribe does not need any broken or severely dysfunctional families as they only create more problems for the people.
No man should expect that 'his woman' HAS to iron his clothes, or wash his clothes, or replace buttons on his clothes, or serve him food etc....If you as a man has at least one hand that still functions normally - DO THESE THINGS YOUR DAMNED SELF! ANY man who has any of these views is a savage who believes in 'male domination of females'.
If 'your woman' FEELS like doing these things for you - nothing wrong with that, you - as 'her man' - can feel like doing these things for her as well....but the minute you EXPECT or DEMAND that the person who should be your 'partner' not your 'servant' 'must' do these things for you - you have already FAILED at being a real man as far as I am concerned.
These are just a few examples we live by, you may say that 'gender roles are antiquated and oppressive'.....but if your 'gender-role-less urban societies are such shinning examples of 'superior' living.....why are your societies so dysfunctional with more juvenile delinquency, failed marriages and violent crime and environmental pollution/destruction than ANY still traditional (not assimilated) native society worldwide? And why do you come to rural traditional native people more and more - seeking spiritual advice on how to repair or improve your urban lives?

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